We love our kids unconditionally and as parents, we always try to shower them with maximum love and attention.
It is also our responsibility to discipline our child.
So that they learn to distinguish between what is right and what is wrong. They should learn from their mistakes and take care not to repeat them.
I used to get really frustrated when my kids misbehaved and I would usually deal with the situation by giving them some sort of punishment like time-out or taking away some of their privileges.
Though it helped in making them behave for a short period of time, it was never a permanent solution. It was one of my friends who suggested a different approach to disciplining kids. According to her, the best way to teach kids was through natural consequences and guess what,
Natural consequence is something that happens naturally as a result of your child’s actions without the interference of adults. It is an effective tool that teaches kids about the potential consequences of their own poor choices. It teaches them that rules are here for a reason and going against these rules can have bad consequences.
The effect of such a disciplinary method is that kids will develop better decision-making skills and they will never repeat these mistakes.
Here are a few good examples of natural consequences:
- If your child refuses to eat, let him go to bed feeling hungry.
- If your child refuses to wear a jacket or put on a coat when it’s cold outside, let him be cold.
- If your child is throwing his food on the floor, don’t pick it up. He will soon understand that if he continues the behavior, he will no longer have food to eat.
- If your child destroys his toys, don’t try to fix it or buy him new ones. This will teach your kids that if he doesn’t take care of his toys, he no longer gets to play with them.
- If your child doesn’t organize his important things and keeps them lying around, take the stuff and keep in a safe place. The next time he looks for it and cannot find it, he’ll understand the importance of organizing.
- If your child doesn’t complete his homework, don’t help him do it. Let him go with the incomplete work and fail the assignment.
- If your child won’t get his books and other stuff ready for school, send him to school without them.
Although in these situations, natural consequence acts as the best teacher, there are cases when it can be dangerous.
For example, allowing your child to put his fingers in the socket, playing with fire, letting him run into the streets, etc. These situations require a different disciplinary approach.